Growing up I had a good childhood, I grew with both parents in the household, attend great schools, lived in a nice neighborhood, always had food and clothing. Both parents always worked. My mother worked at the same job for over 40 years and my father worked many jobs. He could always find a job rather its temporary or permanent. I remember one day I came home from and my dad was home. My dad told me that he had quit his job because his manager disrespected him. Therefore, my dad gave him the BUSINESS and quit and found another job the following week.
You might be thinking, this has nothing to do with Accepting Yourself. But, I needed to provide you with a mini background and it will tie in to my post.
Both parents were very totally different. I mean night and day. But that’s just how me and my husband is. Very different, hot and cold. Both parents were very strong (mentally and physically), outspoken, confident, and accepted themselves.
I learned a lot from my parents, but as I get older I see a lot of their good traits in me. But what I love about my parents is how they treated themselves, how they reacted towards “some” situations, how they handled certain situations, who they hung around with, how they treated themselves with gifts, and how they managed to stay true themselves.
I believe we are or at least I know and can admit that I am my worst critic. I use to talk shit about myself, I am extra hard on myself, and at one point I didn’t treat myself the nicest. I use to have really bad anxiety and anger issues (from keeping things inside and not expressing them) So…..That defiantly added a lot of stress and negative thoughts.
I’ve come a long way, I have more work to do but I have some helpful tips with some fun activities that can help you with accepting yourself, the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Now let me add this important message. Just because I’m more calm and relaxed, I don’t allow people to talk to me in any way, shape or form. Just because I hold/tame my tongue does not mean I am a punk, scared, or a door matt. People often get that confused. And another thing, just because I’m a Christian doesn’t mean I let everything slide.
The topic Self- Acceptance was motivated by an individual who provided me with some great feedback about my Introduction YouTube Channel. I was really grateful, but some words or statement triggered something in my soul, not in a bad way, but it reminded me of somethings that I went through. No matter what there will always be people out in the world that will disapprove or dislike how you look, live, talk, dress, smile, laugh, eat…. Must I go on? I think you get the point.
This is no shade at all.
I can take criticism when its spoken out of love to help me do better, which this is what I believe the feedback was. However, I am who I am and I accept who I am. I curse every now and then.
The reality is that when you ask for advice or opinion of others, it’s up to you to take it. Now mentioning that I should not curse because it can decrease my chances in sponsorship or collaboration, is probably true. However, I will not code switch on my blog or on my channel. Period! If you’re not familiar with code switching, please Google it or if you want me to talk about it. Let me know and I’ll be happy to post it.
I like Cardi B for who she is. She never pretends to be someone else. She went from being a stripper to realty star and now she has appeared on VH1 popular T.V show Being Mary Jane. Talking about breaking barriers and making changes. She is known for being loud and ratchet and being brutally honest in a very vulgar way.
AAAAAANNNNNNNNNNNNND, I love it.
Be Yourself: You will never be happy by pretending to be someone else.
Control Yourself: this means your eyes and looks. Sometimes your face can say a lot or if your someone like me who reacts and speaks immediately. Control your tongue. Think first and analysis.
Forgive Yourself: No one is perfect and don’t try to because your setting yourself up for failure.
Love Yourself: We’ve all heard the quote, you can’t love anyone else until you love yourself. That’s true. Just think about it. When you love something, you take good care of it. If you’re having problems with loving yourself try some to of the activities that I’ll list below and you might want to think about talking to a therapist. I do and I think everyone should. It helps.
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The older I get the more pet peeves I have. Here are my 35 Pet Peeves. What are yours?
President Barack Obama (44th President of the United States) and First Lady Michelle Obama (44th First Lady of the United States)
My last post on my Black Influencer for the month of February. Hope you like!
President Barack Obama (44th President of the United States) and First Lady Michelle Obama (44th First Lady of the United States).
Born on January 17, 1964 in Chicago, Illinois
Graduated from Harvard Law School
Worked at a Chicago Law Firm
Married Barack Obama in 1992
Born on August 4, 1961 in Honolulu, Hawaii
Earned his degrees from Columbia University and Harvard Law School
Worked at as a Community Organizer in Chicago
Married Michelle LaVaughn Robinson
Elected to the Illinois State Senate in 1996 for 8 years
Inaugurated as the 44th President of the United States
The First African American President on Jan 20, 2009.
Won the 2012 reelection, which became his second term as President
First Lady Michelle Accomplishments:
Just to name a few
President Barack Obama Accomplishments:
Just to name a few
Michelle and Barack has 2 children, Malia and Natasha (Sasha).
This family is just wonderful. As I’m trying to type how I feel about the Obama’s I get speechless, in a good way. I’m unable to express in words how I feel because I want to choose words that are the most powerful, breath taking, and passionate words to express how I feel about First Lady Michelle and Frist African American President Barack Obama. When I look at Barack and Michelle, I see them as regular humans, just like me, grew up just like me, and it gives me hope and motivation that I can, make a difference, receive and experience that same love that they express towards each other and show the world.
In other words, Michelle and Barack literally changed the world in so many ways and I’m not talking politically, I’m talking about The Good Life. I love the respect and support and the love that they have for one another. Most men would say that’s being a square or a sell out or white wash or being a pussy. Men who has that mentality don’t know how to be a man, therefore their immature. Like the First Lady said, "One of the things that attracted me to Barack was his emotional honesty. Right off the bat he said what he felt. There are no games with him—he is who he appears to be. I feel fortunate as a woman to have a husband who loves me and shows me in every way."
And like President Barack says, “Sometimes, when we’re lying together, I look at her and I feel dizzy with the realization that here is another distinct person from me, who has memories, origins, thoughts, feelings that are different from my own. That tension between familiarity and mystery meshes something strong between us. Even if one builds a life together based on trust, attentiveness and mutual support, I think that it’s important that a partner continues to surprise.”
I pray that my daughter finds a man who loves, support, and respect her just how Barack Obama respects, love, and support his wife.
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THIS GIRL RIGHT HERE is crazy, smart, funny, and will curse you out with words you don’t even know there meaning. But anyway, she is more than that, I just had to get that out of the way. She is a solid black woman who does not and will not hold her tongue for no one, except her parents. If she does, it’s because she already knows that your either not worth the time or your too stupid to even reply too or she’s just going to save your life by not saying anything, but a GIRL BYE! She’s a co-host for The Read with her friend Kid Fury (Lord he is something).
My amazing best friend Brandi called me one day and recommended that I listen to The Read. Crissle and Kid Fury are always joking about people or going off on people, and they’re Beyoncé lovers and defenders. But! On a side note, they do address real issues such as, political views, Black Lives Maters, and so on, as well as Pop culture. In other words, you will not be bored, you will be entertained. And the Read! I love for the read.
Crissle is from Oklahoma, she moved to cold ass Harlem. It took her a while to adjust and she literally started from the bottom, meaning she went from pawning her laptop to now having a big ass flat screen t.v in her new apartment. She is Pro-Black, smart, and intelligent. She’s a writer, a book lover, television appearances on Uncommon Sense, co-host on Insecuritea Podcast with Hey Fran Hey, she loves Beyoncé, and she lives for Beyoncé.
Crissle made me appreciate myself even more. People may get mad or upset at the things I say, but at least its authentic and verity. Crissle will speak facts and truth and I love it. It’s not being a bitch, although I can be one and it’s not claiming you’re a know it all. However, it’s important to read and be aware of what’s going on around you or your culture history or religion or whatever. I always research information that has been said to me, always. But sticking to my guns and knowing what I know is the best and speaking on what I know is a great feeling. People ask me why do I read. Other than just enjoying a good book and relaxing, I read to gain more knowledge. People will tell you stupid shit that sounds good and it’s not even true and I hate that. Again! That’s why I fact check people. You can’t go to Crissle and speak on some bullshit and I love that. Crissle makes me feel like its ok to speak your truth and be comfortable in your own skin and not worry about what other’s think about you.
Seriously! At my old job people, didn’t like me because they felt like I was mean, I was only mean when I kept it real. SMH, PLEASE! Now If I was to kiss yo ass, I wouldn’t be mean. I’ll be name something else.
I feel how I feel and I will say what I want to say.
Stand up for yourself, be bold, be strong, and be the best damn women you can be.
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Now yall already know that this chick puts a whole new meaning to “The Baddest Bitch”. Well…Trina created and started the Baddest Bitch movement. But I’m sayen B has it going on. She’s a legend! She literally has changed the world, not just in the music industry, but she changed the game of what it “really” means to be a woman. She needs no intro, you should already know her from Destiney Child’s, movies, commercials, clothing line, and the list goes on.
Let’s start with the Super Bowl. Keeping it all the way real, she killed it at the 2016 Super bowl. We will never forget that bomb ass performance. Every woman of color got into Formation. Her and her army of girls had afros and wore black leather clothing to pay tribute to the Black Panthers and the X was for honoring Malcolm X. And…I believe she released her new single “Formation a long with the video that day with no warnings, no notification, and no ads. Very Beyoncé. I was not ready, but I got into Formation that day, me and my soul yall!
Beyoncé did an interview with ELLE Magazine about the Super Bowl message. Nope not controversy. It’s only a controversy to those who are offended and mostly likely those people who are offended are racist. My opinion. I think it’s a damn brilliant idea for a Black Women with Celebrity power/status like Beyoncé to send a strong message about police brutality. Here’s a quote from her interview. Beyoncé stated…
“I mean, I'm an artist and I think the most powerful art is usually misunderstood. But anyone who perceives my message as anti-police is completely mistaken. I have so much admiration and respect for officers and the families of officers who sacrifice themselves to keep us safe. But let's be clear: I am against police brutality and injustice. Those are two separate things. If celebrating my roots and culture during Black History Month made anyone uncomfortable, those feelings were there long before a video and long before me”.
Very well said B.
Beyoncé music just speaks to me. Every word is in every song I can relate to. I mean she just gets me a mood. You can go from being that female hustler to freakum dress to getting into Formation and I’m not sorry.
She is an influencer for sure.
Happy Black History Month
Hey Fran Hey
Hey Fran Hey! I can say so much about this woman right here. OOOOOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMMMMMGGGGGGGGGGGGEEEEEEEEEEE. Yall don’t understand. Let me see if I can express myself through words to make you feel what I feel when I think of Fran.
Hey Fran Hey was Born April 24, 1982 and she’s from Harlem, the hood. As she would say.
She’s like my YouTube Beyoncé. If you know what I mean. She has literally changed my life. I’ve had some struggles and I had to climb some high ass mountains in my life, and I have fallen a lot of times, but I’ve learned a lot from her and there have been some parts in my life that has improved. Don’t get me wrong now, church has helped me as well. However, when deciding to change your lifestyle you don’t know how to start and or when to start and what to use and what not to use, etc. It can be overwhelming. I started following Fran on YouTube in 2012. She has a website called Heyfranhey.com. I have really bad sensitive skin with a lot of breakouts, I even have eczema, but you wouldn’t even know it because I do a lot to my skin since following Fran. I thought about only using natural clean products on my skin and hair, but I didn’t know how to go about it or what to use or how to use oils. One day searching YouTube I landed on Frans channel. Thank you, Jesus! Is what I said to myself. A woman of color, curvy, and healthy was music to my ears. If you haven’t had a chance, please go and subscribe to her channel. You will be able to find information on how to mediate, DIY’S, best products for hair or skin, and healthy eating.
She is a great resource to use when you need to know info on organic DIY’s or products. I love Fran, just by talking about her I tend to tear up because she has inspired me to take better care of myself in areas that were needed and other areas that are still in need of some changes. I’ve gained so much knowledge from listening to the Friend Zone Podcast. Listening to her once a week makes my week even that much better. I feel like I connect with her on so many levels, it’s not even funny. She’s so honest and real. I love it. I also want to add she has created a Wellness Retreat tour with 2 other amazing women. Check that out on her website! I’m so going and can’t wait for her to come to the Bay. I need to attend because I still have problems. I’m human yall!
Fran is a host on The Friend Zone Podcast with 2 other guys who are sooooooooo funny crazy and that is Dustin and Assante. They never disappointment me at all. WHO IN THE HELL WANTS A MUSTY BRAIN? Check out The Friend Zone Podcast on ITunes, Podcast, or Soundcloud. You will Thank me later and wont regret it. I’ve stepped up my Selfcare Wellness living since listening to the Podcast. Check out her YouTube Channel as well as The Friend Zone Podcast and with Crissle on the Insecure Podcast.
Trevor Noah! Who is he? Beside fine as hell. Just sayen. The first time I saw Trevor was on television doing standup comedy on Comedy Central. I thought he was HELLA funny and the topics that he was joking about were on politics, his upbringing in South Africa, and his outlook on America whiling living here in the U.S. It’s hard to make me laugh when joking about politics and race, but he did such a great job that my cheekbones were hurting. Especially since he was speaking the truth. If you haven’t watched any of his standup’s or t.v shows, please look him up on YouTube. I want you to get a clear understanding of who he is and why I have him listed as one of my Influential Black person in today’s world.
Trevor Noah was born on February 20, 1984 in South Africa. His mother is Black (African American) and his father is White (European). At that time, it was illegal to be in a relationship with someone of the opposite sex. Therefore, Noah’s parents carried on by having a secret relationship. His mother had to pretend to be his babysitter and while walking in the streets his father had to walk on the opposite side of the side walk.
I would like to share some information about Trevor. Trevor has his own show called, The Daily Show, he interviewed President Barack Obama, and has had his own comedy special on Showtime. Trevor does not hold back; he speaks his mind. He has done great things and I hope you pay more attention to him and support him in any way you can. I listed him as an Influencer, because he’s what I call, the “today” or the “new” and what I mean by that is…We need more people like him who can speak to us and to the younger generation in a way that we/younger people can understand. Yes! I’m grateful for MLK, Malcom, Ali, Rosa Parks, Black Panthers, and other Black influencers who spoke out about race and politics. However, I feel that we need to keep going and speak out on issues that are not serving us (African Americans) any good and being treated unfairly. He’s a fresh voice and catches your attention with humor and that is a BIG plus for me.
Hope you enjoyed reading my 1st Black influencer. Please look up Trevor Noah and watch his comedy clips and t.v shows.